dv: It’s a pleasure talking to you; I’ve been a big fan for some time. Tell people where you’re currently located and whether you have any travel plans for the rest of 2017.
EO: My home base is in the Tampa/St. Petersburg area of Florida. I'll be heading to Dubai from August 12th-August 21st, and after that, who knows?
dv: Did you start your career in Tampa?
EO: Yes, I'm a Florida native and this is where I first started working in the adult industry. I grew up here and left to go to college in Georgia, then lived in Colorado for a few years. But I guess what they say is true – once you get Florida sand in your shoes you'll always come back!
dv: I can understand that; I’ve always enjoyed traveling to Florida. Were you an aspiring Dominatrix in your childhood days or did that come about later? Would the ‘schoolgirl you’ be surprised to learn this became your profession?
EO: Although I didn't pick up my first flogger until I was in my thirties, I don't think the younger me would be at all surprised at the direction my life has taken. I've always been 'sex obsessed'; back in college it was a running joke among my friends that whenever I entered a conversation it would shortly turn to sex. And even before that, I was the bossy leader of the gang who made up games for the neighborhood boys.
dv: Well, you apparently come by it honestly, lol. What was your initial introduction to the scene and how did that evolve into your decision to make this a profession?
EO: I was always into trying new things in bed but I think what turned me into a professional kinkster was meeting my first sissy sub. I'd gotten into selling my panties when I was a young mom as a fun way to earn some extra spending cash. I found that I enjoyed taking photos and making videos more than I ever could have imagined. When I met this guy whose fetish was to be all dressed up like a pretty doll and made to do housework, I was fascinated. I quickly realized I would make such a good Domme.
I have a very feminine style; I adore silk and lingerie and hosiery and playing sexy dress-up. And I also have a serious fetish for consensual non-consent. So I was a natural fit as a Mistress to cuckolded girly- boys. After I discovered what a rush it was to be totally in control, I made a conscious decision to learn all the whips-and-chains stuff. I wanted to have as many tools as possible to enthrall and annihilate my prey.
dv: Enthrall and annihilate – well put! Who would you consider your heroes in the business and who have been mentors?
EO: I didn't have the benefit of a reputable pro dungeon in my area where I could learn and do sessions. I had to learn everything as an independent Mistress. But I was lucky to meet a woman very early in my career who became my mentor; she introduced me to the protocols of the leather lifestyle and taught me the basics of how to wield hitty things. I'm not going to mention her name because she's retired now and living very discreetly, but she was once a premiere TG Mistress here in Florida.
Later on my heroes were all Ladies whose style, philosophy, and work I admired. I've learned a lot from Goddess BellaDonna; she's like a mama hen to many of us in the biz. The jet-setting Madame Caramel has been my guide and inspiration in making the leap to becoming an international Mistress. I've long admired the style and character of Chocolate Domme and Ms. Sasha Conceited. And right now I'm a big fan of some of the brilliant women in the Findom scene, including Lorraine Cocoa, Mixtrix Fix, Ceara Lynch, and Violet Doll. There are so many Dominas out there I admire that it's hard to give a short list, lol!
dv: Those are definitely some well respected names in the industry. And I love that someone taught you the basics of how to wield ‘hitty things.’ Lol! Do you recall your very first session? Tell us about some of the most memorable ones you’ve had.
EO: Oh yeah, I remember my first paid session. I'd played a bit at a few parties before, but that was the first time I met a guy to abuse and have him give me money for it. I remember my husband being so nervous about what I was doing that he insisted on meeting the guy first and sitting out in the parking lot... which I'm sure hugely enhanced the embarrassment for this naked stranger, hehehe! But I think my favorite part of the scene was when I sent him down the hall for ice, wearing only his shorts and my panties, with a rock-hard erection. That sure taught him not to forget the ice again. ;p
Many of the most memorable sessions I've had over the years took place at the monthly play parties for crossdressers that I used to run. I totally understand the need for discretion that many sub guys have, but there’s something extra thrilling about the humiliation of public exposure. Private club parties are a great way to walk the line between those two things. And these parties were full of horny Tgirl sluts, so it was frequently just a big kinky orgy.
Then there was the time I mummified a sissy girl in saran wrap, the time I beat the poor guy with a malformed dick until his balls were black and blue, the many times I fucked my own collared slave tia with a strapon in front of everybody, and of course "Elbow Deep Rich", who was into fisting and liked my hands a lot. Fun times!
EO: Making him beg to be abused and thank me by paying for it. All other kinky elements are interchangeable; I like flogging as much as feminization. But these two things have to be present for me to really get off on doing a scene. Beyond that the best scenes are with subs who really understand themselves, what they desire and what their limitations are, but who are also really willing to let go, let me take control, and push them to their limits.
dv: What sort of facility do you have?
EO: I often miss it but I gave up my studio a few years ago to concentrate more on travel and family. I used to have a very well-equipped 'salon' for Tgirls with adjacent BDSM play space. I did a lot of crossdresser makeovers and photography.
Nowadays I mainly work from hotel rooms. But I also try to maintain contact with folks who have pro dungeons and rentable play spaces in every city I travel to. It's nice to have the extra equipment and specialized furniture handy when you want it.
dv: Yes, that way you have the best of both worlds – the ability to travel while still having access to all the equipment you need. What do you think people assume about Pro Dommes, or more specifically you, that is just not true?
EO: I have to say one thing that drives me nuts is how people in the "lifestyle" scene assume Pro Dommes only do it for the money. I've rarely met a pro who was not genuinely into the kinks she practises. And they don't seem to assume that about male kinksters who try to make a buck off their fetish, for example, by making floggers, giving rope lessons, or whatever. It seems like the same tired old anti-woman, anti-sex worker sentiments to me.
About me specifically – people are often surprised at how sadistic and evil I can be. I'm so feminine and courteous that they think they're dealing with a pussycat until I have them tied down and start showing my claws.
dv: Woah – I’ll bet you’ve surprised a sub or two by showing your claws when they weren’t expecting it! Tell us about your site. What services do you offer besides real time sessions and where can people find you on social media?
EO: I do so much in addition to real-time sessions! I do domination via phone, webcam, email, and text. I sell worn items. And of course I make porn, including custom videos and audio recordings. Custom porn making is so cool; I think it's the way of the future. Guys are sometimes put off by the upfront cost of custom porn, but if you compare the cost of a good clip to the cost of a live session and think about how many times you're going to enjoy that clip, it's easy to see how much bang you get for your buck. Ahem.
dv: Well done; you seem to have all the bases covered. How do you balance everything in your busy life and what do you like to do for fun? Do you have any hobbies?
EO: I'm terrible about being obsessed with work – my loved ones are always after me to relax more! But there's nothing so interesting to me as kink. Combine that with the allure of making money and I'm hopeless.
But I do have many other interests. I love movies, and I'm especially a sucker for cheesy horror flicks. I play D&D. I used to do a lot of gardening and sewing back when I had more free time. I'm very into art and architecture. I’m fortunate to be able to express my artistic urges with porn making. And I've been able to indulge in various building and remodeling projects that play to my more logically creative side.
And of course I'm a huge aquaphile! I love, love, love being in the water – swimming, canoeing, soaking in the tub, walking in the rain. Living where I do, in a tropical climate only a few miles from some of the country's best beaches, is splendid for me!
dv: Sounds like you’ve got it made. What are some of your future goals?
EO: My #1 goal is to build the tropical water paradise I've always wanted in my backyard! You'll see tons of hot poolboy porn once that happens. *wickedgrin*
I also want to make enough money to bring some of my friends and loved ones along when I travel. My daughter is an artist and I'd love to show her the world. And ultimately I have plans to do some serious investing in real estate. I'd love to own a portfolio of vacation rentals that were friendly to kinksters and porn makers, among other things.
dv: Thank you so much for your time and I wish you continued success!
August 1, 2017