sb: Domina Kaij, thank You VERY much for giving me Your very first interview! Please tell us a little about Your background. Where are You originally from?
DK: I was born in Brooklyn, USA. During the 70’s Bensonhurst was hot! Between Welcome back Kotter and Saturday Night Fever, I'd say I had a privileged upbringing.
Looking twice my age with a libido to match, I achieved equanimity with the boys by saying “yes” to sex. I sought to gain equality; what I got was a reputation. In a move to Long Island my parents took the girl out of the city but they couldn't take the city out of the girl.
Living in the stix, I resented everyone and everything, especially men. My ensuing revenge spawned a new passion- Bodybuilding. I guess that’s where I was introduced to real, self-inflicted physical pain. The ritual diet and exercise when training for competition was grueling.
Even though I never won a trophy I learned how to set goals for myself and be independent. Working day and night I graduated College with honors and since then I've been looking for the ultimate opportunity to showcase all my talents. And now, I'm happy to announce, I've found it.
sb: That's for sure! How Were You introduced to The Scene?
DK: I think it started in the 80’s with PURITAN magazine. The rubber scenes in there left me positively stricken with curiosity.
sb: Where did You start Professionally?
DK: EXCALIBUR, NYC.
sb: This might seem like a dumb question because You look so forceful and authoritative to me, but were You ever submissive?
DK: You pose the question meekly bruce and well you should as you proclaim yourself a slave; but more to the point as if I might take offense. Being submissive is not a sign of weakness as many who are truly weak hide behind the guise of dominance.
It’s time we all come to acknowledge that polarity exists in every facet of life. In order to align ourselves with one extreme we typically regard the other with abhorrence, which in reality is futile because you simply can't know one without the other. In other words it takes one to know one.
sb: Yes i have heard that. How old were You when You started Professionally?
DK: This is my professional debut. I am 35.
sb: What is Your favorite type of scene?
DK: One where I can be myself: sexy, dynamic, cruel.
sb: Please tell me the most intense scene You ever did?
DK: A safe, sane and consensual, sensual, scene involving incest. The taboo was incredibly stimulating.
sb: Wow! And what is the most humiliating thing You ever did to a slave?
DK: For my taste the most assiduous form of humiliation is financial abuse. The male ego is dependant upon the power money provides. Given the ratio of male players in the scene it stands to reason the #1 systematically pervasive irritant would be extortion by a female.
Therefore whenever a slave dedicates himself to honoring me he must prove himself with a weekly tribute hand delivered to my P.O. box, prove he used public transportation and I only allow him to call from a pay phone with a quarter.
sb: How about public humiliation. Do You get into that?
DK: To the extent it that it serves a purpose; especially if its prelude to a session. One time I ordered my favorite leatherslut to meet me at Macys on 34th. Dressed in kidskin black from head to toe, while purchasing some gloves to match, he was to make a pass at me by commenting on my attire whereupon I succinctly put him in his place and demanded payment instead of apology. I wore the gloves out of the store but not before I negotiated a swift slap to his face and a pace of 3 steps behind until we reached the Studio. That was fun.
sb: Very cool! How about crossdressers? Do You enjoy these type of scenes?
DK: Working with crossdressers enables me to act on my own deviance as well as theirs. I've come to realize that I subscribe to a small group of fetishists who idolize something called BE, Breast Expansion. When training sluts I am compelled to mandate a triple letter bra size complete with prosthetics. The more disproportionate the better. I really get turned on gaining control through forced feminization.
sb: Very imaginative! Do You enjoy watersports?
DK: Strictly as a reward only.
sb: For sure! Do You enjoy foot worship?
DK: The journey into submission begins at my feet.
sb: Yes You do have lovely feet Domina. Do You prefer taunting Your slaves in boots or open toe shoes?
DK: That depends on the nature of the scene as they both appeal to me.
sb: Do You like heavy corporal?
DK: Love it.
sb: Do You ever do sessions with other Mistresses?
DK: Only privately.
sb: Are there any other Mistresses that You admire in the scene?
DK: Yes, some I've met in NYC and California; others I've yet to meet in Europe.
sb: Can a slave who scenes with You also be photographed if he wishes?
DK: That depends on the purpose.
sb: What kind of slaves do You like the most and least?
DK: Within the safe, sane and consensual scene I prefer slaves who are committed to exploring the depths of their submission as opposed to those solely seeking a sexual release. The two combined are okay but the second without the first taints the underlying principle of a session.
sb: What is Your favorite type of clothing?
DK: For the longest time its been leather. When I’'m draped in it carrying the weight makes me feel strong and secure. It’s empowering to realize that through wear and tear you actually mold the garment. I've been subduing a pair of leather jeans for the past 15 years.
Unlike latex, it’s always been a staple part of my wardrobe. Outside of fetish, Latex is not as durable; but during a session or play there’s nothing more sexy than the feeling of being restricted by a second skin. Fashion wise, I love the look. It’s always a special purchase or gift.
sb: What is the greatest thrill You get from Domination?
DK: Breaking all the rules.
sb: Do you session with novices?
DK: I don't discriminate.
sb: What is your favorite drink?
DK: With a background in Bar tending and Wine Sales, my cup runneth over. Lets just say it depends on my mood.
sb: But you are much more than a professional and lifestyle Domina, perhaps you could share one or two of your other interests?
DK: 6 years ago I made the decision to devote the greater part of myself to raising a child. From natural childbirth to kindergarten the commitment to parenting has proved to be my greatest challenge. As career minded as I am resisting the temptation to put myself first is difficult. Lately I feel most successful when I've mastered my schedule and my obligations with flexibility and most of all patience!
sb: Do You have any videos for sale?
DK: Not presently but I'm working on it.
sb: What are Your favorite types of gifts?
DK: I've recently updated the site with a LINKS page and a WISH LIST in the GALLERY. Not really a big deal; I know, but my webslave and I strive for innovative presentation. Check it out!
sb: Do You play in Your personal life? If so, how is the NY club scene?
DK: Oh yeah, all the time. My pleasure slave and I are always testing limits. As for public play in NYC, I prefer to make a scene like a celebrity; you never know where we'll show up but you can bet you'd wish you were there.
sb: i believe that! What is a really kinky scene that You haven't done yet that You would like to do?
DK: Well in this case bruce, sluts. Once I get the privacy of my own space I plan to choreograph a sissy slut gangbang for all those pimp petitioners out there. It’s a fun fantasy to act out, if you have the talent.
sb: Wow! i know You will get lots of volunteers. :)
sb: What is the harshest scene that You ever witnessed but did not participate in?
DK: Believe it or not, a scene with some very intense Butch Dominants. Don't ever underestimate the power of a woman and double it when it comes to scening lesbians. They were absolutely fierce! They scared the skirt off me!
sb: i sure never underestimate it! Do You also work with Women and couples?
DK: I love to dominate gorgeous, sexy women in breast bondage with genitorture, lots of spanking and sexual teasing. If her significant other wants to submissively participate that’s okay, too. Although, this is a rare occurrence because in most cases their agendas interfere with the spontaneity that makes a real scene exciting.
sb: Describe some special tools or devices in Your dungeon?
DK: I'm really good with a tweezer. I love to pluck! I guess you could say I'm a motherplucker.
sb: i would like to laugh to don't know if i should. :) That's really wild! Could You describe what would be the "perfect scene" for You if the slave gave You complete authority to do whatever You wished?
DK: It’s really wicked, but one where I attain total control through an abuse of power resulting in a real mindfuck. Upon arrival the slave will provide a hand written confession of his deviance. During session I severely humiliate him and take Polaroids to prove it.
In subsequent sessions I extort money from him with the threat of exposing his perverted secrets by taking more Polaroids. He must return and provide what ever I ask not because I can bribe him, but because by now he’s addicted to the scene and the threat only makes him want it more. I humiliate him by taking more money for what he hates to love and loves to hate. Any takers?
sb: If someone gave You 10 million dollars, what would You do with it?
DK: For me you need to qualify the experience: Frivolously, I'd spend it all at once for the privilege of humiliating Howard Stern; Ideally, I'd endorse legislation to regulate abortion in support of adoption and realistically, I'd recreate Hugh Hefner’s life- only a fetish version with me at the helm of the SLAVEBOY empire.
sb: i guess You aren't a Howard fan. :) But i wouldn't mind joining that empire. :)
sb: What is the one thing in the world that really pisses You off?
DK: Cheap, petty or stupid people.
sb: i totally agree. Domina Kaij, this was really an honor for me to get Your first interview anywhere. i think You are truly gorgeous and will be a very successful Mistress. Please tell everyone how You can be contacted for a session?
DK: Contact Info is on My website. I am accepting appointments in northern N.J. as well as Manhattan. I have an independent and private studio location in the works on Long Island for sessions and video production due to open in the summer. More photos scheduled to be seen in FOR WOMEN ONLY and BOUTIQUE items available in the spring. MEMBERS site coming soon!
sb: Wow You are really busy i see! Thank You again for the interview Domina and good luck in all Your future endeavors. You are a really cool Mistress!
DK: Thank you bruce. I enjoyed the interview.